Dating your best friend may sound like a good idea in theory, but the practice of it is another story. Presently, first let me qualify something: when I say best friend, I am not talking about your guy friend who you have always really liked and with whom you have amazing chemistry. I am speaking about your best friend who is pretty much family and that you’ve always had a platonic relationship with. He is the one to get you out when you’re a snap, and he is your partner in crime.
So here are the expectations versus the actual truth of dating your best friend.
Having the same interests and hobbies
Expectation:
When you’re best buddies, you like all the same stuff. You will listen to the same music, eat the same food, watch same shows.
Reality:
Your comfort level
While you’re only friends, you wear your fat pants, go without showering, and don’t put on makeup. You’d prefer to think that level of comfort would be right in the relation, but you’re missing whole time in your relationship of dressing up and getting to know each other. There is no “honeymoon” stage of dating.
Fighting
Expectation:
You figure that because they know you well, both them will never fight much, and if they do, you at least know how to fight nicely with each other. In fact, both of them have so many past stories on each other you would hit be able to below the belt quickly. And don’t think just because you didn’t fight then, they won’t fight now. Sex and loyalty are great, but they accompany fighting. It’s natural.
Reality:
If it doesn’t work out, then you still have your friendship
Expectation:
You think your relationship will span the decades, but you’ve made the promise that if anything were to happen, you’d put your friendship first. Suddenly, it all goes south. Presently what? You try and hold together a friendship that once was, but how might you be able to possibly stay friends after having been that intimate and sharing that part of your life with them. Presently every guy you see with her is going to drive you insane because you know quite what he gets to hold at night. Would you be able to go back from that?
Reality:
